Lets Talk Loneliness - 2021 - Awareness Week

17th June, 2021
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Last year during loneliness week, we talked about what it meant to be lonely and how COVID-19 especially was challenging for people who experienced loneliness.

We recognised that due to lockdown restrictions during the pandemic, it was more important than ever to keep in touch with our customers, especially those more vulnerable. Most of us have mobile devices to stay in touch - but it wasn't the same as seeing someone face to face. And those without that device, and  especially where signal can be an issue rurally within Herefordshire and Shropshire, we saw loneliness rise dramatically amongst our customers. 

Our housing team was able to contact over 10,000 customers across Shropshire and Herefordshire to let them know what support options were available to them and establish those in need of ongoing support to ensure they didn’t feel lonely during this period of uncertain and isolation.

Our Independent Living Coordinators implemented new ways of working and were creative with keeping their residents supported and not feeling lonely. As a result, 1,873 calls were made over five days to all the residents to ‘check in’ on how they were feeling and helped us address specific support needs for extra follow-up calls. 

We also had to consider our colleagues at Connexus because, like many, we all had to work from home. So we had virtual catch-ups, posted pictures of where we were working, our pets (keeping us company), our baking successes (or not!), and like many, our wellbeing walks. Everything that we can do at the time to lift the mood.

Now that we are emerging out of lockdown, our teams have offered customers a more normal service and look forward to day trips out, more home visits with chats over a cup of tea.

Likewise, colleagues are looking forward to heading back to the office a day or two a week and see people that they’ve not seen ‘in person for quite some time.

 

A year later

After a year of uncertainty and restrictions, more of us are experiencing loneliness, which significantly impacts our wellbeing. This year, we understand better how people get lonely, what their experiences are, and how best to manage them.

The stigma and shame surrounding loneliness need to be removed, and talking about it is the best way to do it! #letstalkloneliness

So how can we talk about loneliness? 

  • Avoid using negative headlines and stigmatizing language such as ‘suffering,’ ‘admitting,’ ‘tackling.’
  • and ‘epidemic.’
  • Have a wider representation of loneliness stories and positive outcomes
  • Normalise the language around loneliness and advocate it as a natural human emotion
  • Avoid linking loneliness to mental health issues.
“I think people don’t ask me how I am because they’re worried I’ll start crying or get upset. But you can still have a giggle when you feel lonely. I don’t want people feeling sorry for me. People tend to get very serious when talking about loneliness like there’s been a death in the family; the only death has been my social life! Or even worse, people don’t talk about it at all. It’s like the big elephant in the room. When people ask me how I am, I might be having one of those days and say that I’m feeling lonely, but the next time they ask me, I could be fine. I feel like the more we talk about it, the more it becomes part of everyday conversations, and everyone gets a bit more comfy with it.
Elsie, 84 - who lives alone
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Self - care for loneliness

We can all practice taking action to help preserve our health, whether mental, emotional, or physical, by taking time to do the things we love.

Some top self-care tips

  1. Writing lists and getting your thoughts down can help you achieve your goals and celebrate the good things in your life.
  2. Keeping a diary of things you are thankful for and reminding yourself can help lower anxiety and depression.
  3. A nice hot bath or shower - studies show that these can spark feelings of social warmth.
  4. Making some nutritious comfort food to keep your energy levels up.
  5. Creating an inviting space around you to bring comfort and joy.

Find out more about Loneliness, advice and support - Marmalade Trust